A few chapters ago it was revealed that Christian was partially the way he was because of a submissive relationship he was in.
It was in chapter 10 and I just sorta raged-quit when I read it because I knew it deserved more than "this is bad and you should fee bad" kind of thing.
It was in chapter 10 and I just sorta raged-quit when I read it because I knew it deserved more than "this is bad and you should fee bad" kind of thing.
Christian tells Ana that when he was fifteen he was "seduced" by a woman who was friends with his mother.
For a moment, let's leave the whole BDSM thing off the table.
That's fucking rape.
For a moment, let's leave the whole BDSM thing off the table.
That's fucking rape.
And that is not okay.
I had this discussion with someone a few weeks ago that it was okay because technically Christian knew what he was doing, and he was a guy, so it does't really count as rape.
What the flying fuck? Seriously. What the fuck?
I'm sorry... let's try to not glorify something illegal in hopes it turns someone into a romantic hero.
So when people told me this line:
"There's no rape in this book. Where are you getting this from?"
THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE. THIS IS RAPE!
I had this discussion with someone a few weeks ago that it was okay because technically Christian knew what he was doing, and he was a guy, so it does't really count as rape.
What the flying fuck? Seriously. What the fuck?
I'm sorry... let's try to not glorify something illegal in hopes it turns someone into a romantic hero.
So when people told me this line:
"There's no rape in this book. Where are you getting this from?"
THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE. THIS IS RAPE!
For starters, men do get raped and it is a big deal.
Second, a year or so ago people were up in arms when these two people got married:
She was 16 when she got married to a 50 something year old.
Yes. She had parental consent.
But you know what people were saying?
At 16 you don't have the common sense to know what you're doing.
So let me just state here that at 15 Christian also didn't have the same common sense, the ability to make informed decisions, and someone took advantage of that and raped him.
Yes. She had parental consent.
But you know what people were saying?
At 16 you don't have the common sense to know what you're doing.
So let me just state here that at 15 Christian also didn't have the same common sense, the ability to make informed decisions, and someone took advantage of that and raped him.
And it also doesn't help that his book glorifies this.
This makes him what he is, and he is the romantic hero, so it's okay.
No.
Immediately when I read this part of the book I felt uncomfortable.
I felt like I was watching a train wreck.
And as I got further into the book I was hoping that it would address it for what it was.
And it didn't.
So people saying that this book does not contribute to rape culture.
I call bull shit.
Ugh.
Why am I even having to say this?
Is the blood rushing to so many women's vagina's that it's causing their brains not to work?
Let's swap roles.
What if it was a fifteen year old girl and a 40 year old man?
More people may feel uncomfortable now.
Why? Because it's a girl?
When it come to rape
It doesn't matter the sex.
It's still rape.
And what's worse... is that this book glorifies it because it makes someone seem dark... secretive... alluring... kinky.
And they need rescuing, because this book needs a plot somewhere, so that's about a loose of a plot we can get.
This makes him what he is, and he is the romantic hero, so it's okay.
No.
Immediately when I read this part of the book I felt uncomfortable.
I felt like I was watching a train wreck.
And as I got further into the book I was hoping that it would address it for what it was.
And it didn't.
So people saying that this book does not contribute to rape culture.
I call bull shit.
Ugh.
Why am I even having to say this?
Is the blood rushing to so many women's vagina's that it's causing their brains not to work?
Let's swap roles.
What if it was a fifteen year old girl and a 40 year old man?
More people may feel uncomfortable now.
Why? Because it's a girl?
When it come to rape
It doesn't matter the sex.
It's still rape.
And what's worse... is that this book glorifies it because it makes someone seem dark... secretive... alluring... kinky.
And they need rescuing, because this book needs a plot somewhere, so that's about a loose of a plot we can get.
Rape has been a pretty big hot button issue in our country lately.
Remember when I said that Christian was blaming Ana for almost getting raped by Jose?
That is also bull shit.
A woman should be able to do whatever she damn well pleases without having to worry about a man trying to take advantage of her.
A man should be able to do whatever they damn well please, without a woman trying to take advantage of him.
The problem with rape in our culture (and it especially is evident in this book) is that it is the victim on trial. The victim has to prove a point.
This is why I have such a problem with slut-shaming or victim blaming.
Remember when I said that Christian was blaming Ana for almost getting raped by Jose?
That is also bull shit.
A woman should be able to do whatever she damn well pleases without having to worry about a man trying to take advantage of her.
A man should be able to do whatever they damn well please, without a woman trying to take advantage of him.
The problem with rape in our culture (and it especially is evident in this book) is that it is the victim on trial. The victim has to prove a point.
This is why I have such a problem with slut-shaming or victim blaming.
